How Do You Determine Your Age?
Do you look at the calendar or your paper work [your birth certificate] and say well, I’m 60 something, or 70 something or 80 something or perhaps even 90 something and then decide how old you are. Has anyone ever said this to you, “Why don’t you act your age!” What on earth does that mean!
Do you typically go to the stereotypical picture of someone in their 80s, or 90s as being wrinkled or shriveled in body and mind? Someone who has lost that sparkle in their eyes or interest in life. I have to ask, where did that picture come from anyway? I have seen people in their 50s or 60s who believe they are old and I have seen people in their 80s and even 90s who are perhaps challenged by some physical limitations but who have a beautiful smile, a wonderful sense of humor and a heart filled with love.
My grandmother was one such person. Grandmother W. was born in 1867 and died in 1962 at the age of 95 and was still young at heart. She had 5 children and outlived all of them. She became a widow at the age of 52, had a victory garden during World War II at the age of 77, was hearing impaired and wore a hearing aid for most of her life. Now this was not the kind of hearing aid one wears today. She maintained her home and some of her children and their families came back home to live with her at some time or another and my family was one of them. She always had a smile on her face an incredible sense of humor and a heart filled with love.
There was an article in the newspaper in July 1944, titled “77 Year –Old Lady raises Model Victory Garden at Kenwood. One day a neighbor said to my grandmother, “Why there is not a weed in your garden”, and my grandmother replied, “Of course not, I don’t raise weeds, I raise vegetables!”
I remember my grandmother had an old time pipe organ, and I used to play on it hour on end when I was just a little girl. During the war when heating fuel was scarce, my grandmother chopped up that organ for fire wood. One might say what a terrible thing to do, but I can hear Grandmother now saying, “We have to do what we have to do.”
Grandmother W. obviously did not check her ‘paperwork’ because she did not believe she was supposed to act old!
I can imagine if anyone ever said to her, act your age, she would probably have said, “Oh, I am!”
I met a gentleman a number of years ago who was in his 80s and was writing a book. He needed someone to type the manuscript for him. Phil had a number of health issues that could have kept him from doing many things if he allowed them to. I worked with Phil for several years and when he was finished his book he had a number of copies printed just to give to family and friends. His book is titled, “Building America: From 13 Colonies to 50 States. This is truly a wonderful little book and I have to say I learned more from that little book than from any history text book I have ever read. However, my biggest reward was meeting this extraordinary man. He had so many wonderful stories to tell and was so willing to share those stories with my husband and with me. He also wrote a collection of Essays for his family, which I also had the pleasure of typing for him.
So, I say to you – Act Your Age, whatever you perceive that age to be, not by calendar years but by spirit!
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